Codependency is NOT a diagnosis, it's a label.
And other valid reasons to love your addicted spouse.
My name is Leah. I seem to be an average girl. I have no fancy letters after my name, no theological background, and I am not a part of any professional associations. In fact, I am a three-time college dropout who married an addict. Maybe that makes me an average loser with a capital L?
Hmm... (hey, good pun!)
Did you know that education does not equally correspond to IQ but that there are external factors such as environment, personality traits, and even birth order that can affect a person's measurable success?
In fact, some studies show that people with higher IQs are more prone to depression, more likely to isolate from peers, and to use illegal drugs.
So let me ask you this- how gifted is your addicted spouse? I'm willing to bet they lean toward exceptionally gifted and highly intelligent.
I believe their gifts are their weakness.
Satan is a liar.
Join me in a six-video class (with worksheets!) as I reframe how we look at addiction, at ourselves and at our mistakes, and how to support our loved ones in their addiction recovery.
And how about you...
Are you a natural introvert?
A complex thinker?
Are you a highly empathetic person who is able to easily relate to the feelings of others?
Is your intuition exceptional? (Don't let the "marrying an addict bit throw you! It doesn't mean your judgement is off!)
The large majority of wives I come across are deep thinkers, big feelers and have keen discernment. They may be natural defenders, they may be remarkably creative. They are fiercely loyal and anything but big, fat, L's (losers!).
In marriage to an addict, I believe their gifts are also their weakness.
6 Videos + Worksheets ~ Outline
Mistake #1
Policing our loved ones.
Learn the difference between control, policing, and safeguards put in place to rebuild trust.
Mistake #2
Trying to assert boundaries in an abusive relationship.
Examine what you would do if you had to help another woman with a similar problem.
Mistake #3
Making the ultimate ultimatum (too many times!).
Let's answer the big questions of, "Why did this have to happen to me?" and, "Why did God allow this?!"
Mistake #4
Believing each day of sobriety is a victory and a new start.
Let's dig into ethics! Should we allow someone we love to die if they are drowning from willingly jumping into the ocean?
Mistake #5
Getting stuck in the codependency trap.
Learn what it means to become one with someone and how our spouse should be fulfilling our emotional needs.
Mistake #6
Allowing fear to control our thoughts, decisions, and actions.
Tips, tricks, and tactics to fight fear, anxiety and overwhelm. Full disclosure- it won't work every day, but it will for many.
Have you been looking for faith-based support through your spouse's addiction and/or recovery?
You found the right place!
| Q- What should I expect after signing up? | You should be redirected to the class after you create a log in and pay. In total, it should take you about a week to complete the lessons. Each video is 10 minutes long. It depends on how much thought you put into the worksheets, but I would set aside 30 minutes a day for the video and responses 😊. You'll also receive an email from me every day with a teaching further discussing the lesson for that day. Don't forget to confirm your email address! |
| Q- Why do you charge for classes? | A number of years ago, I left my job as a hairstylist and created a small business to help women affected by addiction. This is now my part-time dream. I would love to do so much more than I'm currently doing (like opening a family-centered rehab!), but I need funds to do that! |
| Q- What topics do the videos cover? | I address controlling behaviours, threatening consequences and not following through, codependency, forgiveness, faith, staying relaxed when the situation looks bad, and much more! I try to touch on the main points I was told to work on with my husband (by therapists, pastors, etc.) that didn't work for us. |
| Q- Is this course for wives who have husbands in active addiction or in recovery? | I think it's appropriate for both active addiction and living in recovery (the first year especially is the hardest). The class does not cover repairing specific things in marriage in long-term recovery (like how to rebuild your sex life!). UnBound Me would be better for that. You can also watch for the next class I'll be releasing with my husband which will be about repairing your relationship in long-term recovery. |
| Q- Why did you make this course? | I do not subscribe to the "one-size-fits-all" recovery model. I also didn't like that everyone in my life, including professionals, were telling me to leave my husband. I dug into God's Word, decided that the advice I was getting was anti-Biblical and not appropriate for my situation, and created this class (and other products!). There is a time it's best to leave, but that wasn't the right time. |
| Q- Is everything you do faith-based? | Yes! I believe that everything we do, especially in difficult times, should be done on the foundation of the Bible. |
| Q- What's your denomination? | I don't have one. I was raised in a Mennonite Brethren church, went to a Pentecostal one for a while, went to a non-denominational one, went to Hillsong, and now my favourite online church is a Messianic Jewish one! I believe in the Word and the Word alone. I value historical accuracy and strong, Biblical teaching. |
| Q- What will be my biggest takeaway? | It's my hope that this course will bring your mind back to what is most important by focusing on your relationship with God first, then your self-care, then your family. |
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